Divorced parents-Teach your kids to love other parent not hate them.

Gomti Mehta
2 min readJan 22, 2020

Last night as I was putting my son to bed, I said to me, I miss you so much when aren’t here. He said to me, you know daddy also misses me when I am not with him. Then he said, if you marry daddy, then you and daddy can live together and I will always be with both of you. I tried to explain to him that I and his daddy were married and we fought all the time and that’s why we don’t live together. Then I said to him, lets say I get married to daddy, what will happen to Flavio? Wouldn’t he be alone and sad? Then he said, I have another idea. You, I and Flavio, we all should marry daddy, then Flavio won’t be alone. He asked me, why did you and daddy fight all the time. I said, there were too many disagreements. I said, you know what though, we could all still spend time together in our home or outside with you if your daddy and grandpa would like to. He said, daddy would never come to your home, he hates you, grandpa also hates you. I told him that they are angry, one day when their anger will go away, they won’t hate anymore. Then I asked him, do you think mummy hates daddy and grandpa, he said, no you don’t. I said, you are right, I don’t. I said to him. I care about your daddy and grandpa and if they will ever be in any trouble, mummy is going to be there to help them. He was surprised to hear that. He asked why would you help them? I said, because they are your family and they were my family and they are people. I will help them for all those reasons. He said something amazing back to me — You know mummy, I will also help everyone if they need help.

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Gomti Mehta

I work at Microsoft as Azure Specialist. I have one boy. I love spending time in the gym, with my boy and work with my team and customers.